Welcome to the Caregiver Candor Blog.

This space is for you, the caregiver who’s so damn good at anticipating everyone else’s needs that you’ve completely forgotten you’re allowed to have your own. And no, wanting five minutes alone in the bathroom doesn’t make you selfish.

What You’ll Find Here (Besides real talk for keeping your shit together)

• Hard-won wisdom, and strategies for navigating the caregiver challenges that actually work, written by someone who’s been in the trenches and refuses to sugarcoat the messy truth of caregiving.

• Candid stories that say out loud what you’ve only whispered to yourself at 2 AM: Yes, you can love someone deeply and still resent the hell out of your situation

• No-BS wisdom for remembering that you’re still a whole person under that caregiver cape—and that person deserves more than whatever’s left over at the end of the day

• Practical boundary-setting that won’t make you feel like a terrible person (because you’re not—you’re just human and you’re exhausted)

• Real strategies for clawing back bits of yourself without requiring a complete life overhaul or a week at a spa you can’t afford anyway

• Stories from someone who learned that martyrdom looks noble but feels like absolute garbage, and that taking care of yourself isn’t betraying anyone

This isn’t about adding “self-care” to your already impossible to-do list. It’s about refusing to disappear completely while everyone else gets the best of you and you get what’s left (which is usually nothing).

You’re allowed to matter too. Let’s figure out what that actually looks like.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​