Judy’s Most Requested Keynote & Breakout Topics

◾The Fine Rebellion: Why Your Politeness is Killing Your Dreams

Stop me if this sounds familiar: You've spent 20+ years perfecting the art of being "fine" while your real thoughts, needs, and dreams collected dust in the corner. You've become a master at smoothing over everyone else's rough edges while your own life feels increasingly... meh.

This isn't another feel-good session about self-care bubble baths.

This is about the quiet revolution happening when midlife women finally get fed up with being everyone's emotional cruise director. It's about what happens when you stop apologizing for taking up space and start demanding it instead.

Your audience will walk away knowing:

• The brutal truth about why "being nice" became your prison sentence

• How to spot the 7 sneaky ways you're still people-pleasing (even when you think you've stopped)

• The "Uncomfortable Truth Technique" that cuts through decades of conditioning in 30 seconds

• Why your discomfort is actually your GPS to authentic living

The kicker? This isn't theory. This is street-tested strategy from a women who has already burned down her perfectly curated life and built something real from the ashes.

Why this version hits different: It acknowledges that we're not broken—we're products of a system that taught us our value came from how little trouble we caused. And it gives practical tools to unlearn that programming, one uncomfortable conversation at a time.

Customization options available to align with your conference theme and audience demographics.

◾When Life Blows Up Your Plans (And I Mean That Literally)

What Military Caregiving Taught Me About Building a Life You Never Planned For

Look, nobody wakes up thinking, "I hope my spouse gets blown up today so I can discover my inner strength." But when life decides to detonate your carefully crafted plans—whether it's through injury, illness, job loss, divorce, or any other curveball—you've got two choices: stay buried in the rubble or learn to build something new from the debris.

This isn't your typical "everything happens for a reason" keynote.

This is about what happens when everything you thought you knew about your life gets obliterated in a single moment, and you have to figure out how to move forward when the old playbook no longer applies.

Your audience will discover:

• Why "bouncing back" is bullshit (and what actually works instead)

• The 3-Second Rule that stops panic in its tracks when everything's falling apart

• How to build a life raft when you're already drowning (spoiler: it's not what you think)

• The uncomfortable truth about grief that nobody talks about (even when nobody died)

• Why your "before" self might be holding your "after" self hostage

The kicker? This isn't just for people dealing with catastrophic events. This is for anyone whose life took a left turn when they were planning to go straight—which, let's be honest, is pretty much everyone over 35.

Why this matters now: We're living in an era of constant upheaval. Jobs disappear overnight, relationships implode, health crises hit without warning, and kids grow up and move out, leaving us wondering who the hell we are when we're not actively parenting. The old "just push through it" mentality isn't cutting it anymore.

This keynote gives people permission to admit their life didn't go according to plan AND provides a roadmap for building something meaningful from whatever's left standing.

◾The Anxiety Epidemic: Why “Just Breathe” Isn’t Cutting It Anymore

Real Talk About Mental Wellness for People Who Don't Have Time for Bubble Baths

Look, we need to have an honest conversation about mental health. We're living in an era where anxiety has become as common as coffee addiction, where stress is worn like a badge of honor, and where the wellness industry keeps telling us that meditation apps and essential oils are going to fix our fundamentally broken relationship with modern life.

Spoiler alert: They're not.

This isn't another "practice gratitude and everything will be fine" session.

This is about what actually works when you're drowning in deadlines, caring for aging parents, worrying about money, doom-scrolling at 2 AM, and trying to keep your shit together in a world that seems designed to make you lose it.

Your audience will discover:

• Why your anxiety isn't a personal failing (and what it actually is)

• The 3-Minute Panic Circuit Breaker that stops anxiety spirals before they hijack your day

• How to tell the difference between productive worry and mental masturbation

• The "Emotional Thermostat" technique that prevents overwhelm before it starts

• Why boundaries feel impossible (and how to set them anyway)

• The uncomfortable truth about why self-care advice makes you feel worse instead of better

The kicker? These aren't techniques you need to remember to do. They're designed to become automatic responses that kick in exactly when you need them most—when your brain is too fried to remember to "just breathe."

Why this matters now: We're not just dealing with normal life stress anymore. We're dealing with a constant state of low-level crisis that our brains weren't designed to handle. The old advice isn't working because it was created for a world that no longer exists.

This keynote gives people permission to admit that positive thinking isn't enough, and provides actual tools for living with anxiety instead of trying to eliminate it completely.

◾Military Life is Weird as Hell (And Nobody Talks About It)

Real Talk for People Who Live at the Mercy of the Army's Mood Swings

Let's just say it: Military life is weird. You move every 2-3 years whether you want to or not. Your spouse disappears for months at a time to places they can't tell you about. You make friends knowing you'll have to say goodbye. You build a life knowing it's temporary. You plan around deployments, PCS moves, and training schedules that change without notice.

And then civilians ask you, "Don't you love all the travel?" while you're crying in a U-Haul in Kansas.

This isn't another "you're so strong" pep talk.

This is about the weird, wonderful, completely insane reality of building a life that's constantly being rebuilt for you. It's about the things nobody warns you about when you marry someone who belongs to the government. It's about finding stability in instability and creating home in places that will never be home.

Your audience will finally hear someone talk about:

• Why "embrace the adventure" makes you want to punch something

• The grief of leaving places you didn't even want to move to

• How to maintain friendships when you move every three years

• The identity crisis of being "just" a military spouse

• Why spouse clubs feel like sororities for grown-ups (and not always in a good way)

• The art of making friends as an adult in new places (spoiler: it's harder than dating)

• How to have a career when the military controls where you live

The kicker? This isn't just survival strategies. This is about leveraging the weird skills military life teaches you—adaptability, independence, crisis management, and the ability to make friends with anyone—into superpowers that serve you long after your spouse hangs up the uniform.

Why this matters now: Military families are burning out faster than ever. Suicide rates are climbing. Divorce rates are climbing. Kids are struggling with constant transitions. The old "suck it up and serve with pride" mentality isn't cutting it anymore. Families need permission to admit this is hard AND tools to make it work anyway.

This talk gives them both.

◾Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Risk for Depression, Addiction or Suicide Ideation? (Based on Judy's Book)

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